I have a friend. She is a very special friend. In her own way, she tells me that I can do anything that I set out to do. She tells me that she believes in me and that makes me believe, even more. My friend has given me a gift that no amount of money could ever purchase.
She doesn’t tell me things that I want to hear. Often, she doesn’t even use words that inflate my feeling of self-worth. It’s all about what I see in her eyes that ignites my very being and makes me want to be a better person in every way that I can.
It’s all about how wonderful she makes me feel about myself. I have many friends but this friend is different. This friend has given me something that my other friends haven’t been able to give to me for a very long time. I know that I have been unable to give my friends this gift either, for many years. Every birthday that we have, takes away a piece of our ability to hold onto and also give this gift to others.
This is a unique friendship, in that it arrived on my door step, offering admiration, trust and vulnerability without my asking. This friendship has given to me, the benefit of helping me to feel valuable and needed. This friend makes me want to try harder and do better. The friend, about whom I am speaking, is a twelve year old child, named Louisa.
The English proverb states it better than I ever could. The soul is healed by being with children. Each one of us will be healed and we will find strength as we continue to open our hearts to the children. We must protect these precious gifts with everything that we can muster. We must try, in every way that we are able, to keep them out of the pain and cross fire of divorce.
We need to listen with their ears, see with their eyes and feel with their hearts. It is in doing this, that we will be able to learn from their wisdom and gain more of our own personal strength. Why? The answer is simple. We need to realize how important it is to live up to their expectations.
