Look Before You Leap

A new client of mine said something this morning that really made me think. It’s not that I haven’t heard it before. It’s that I never heard it the way that she said it. She said, “I want no part of two of my daughters because they look just like their father and he is evil.

They are on his side through all of this and I hate them for it. I was the one who was always there for them. He was never there. He broke up our family because of his latest lover. They have turned on me and every time I look at them, I feel sick. I’m going to turn over custody to him. I want nothing to do with any of them… ever again.”

I have to admit that I was speechless. How could a mother who carried a child for 9 months react that way? I just don’t get it! For those of you who know me, you won’t be surprised that I said exactly that to her.

If you take away one thing from this site, it should be that you must not allow divorce to destroy your relationship with your children. Sure, things happen and those relationships can become strained at best.

The word that you must consider at all times is PATIENCE.  You will fare much better if you take time before you make any big decisions.  I remember my mom used to say, God give me patience right now. Everyone who divorces experiences pain in one way or another. If the pain involves your children, please don’t make hasty decisions. Look before you leap.

Live so that when your children think of fairness, kindness and integrity, they will think of you. It will be well worth the wait.

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