An old couple walking while holding hands
I’m so sorry that I have been away. We have had major site issues and computer issues but finally, they are all fixed. You might notice how much faster this site is loading. I am absolutely thrilled and I’m sure you are too. I never realized how irritating slow moving sites are until recently.
During my time off…said tongue in cheek since I have been working harder than ever! I have had several emails from women wondering if there is life after divorce. It seems like for many as it was for me, that with the divorce decree comes an end. That is so not true and I can attest to that fact.
The key is that we have to learn from our mistakes. It’s not the mistakes we make, it’s what we learn from them and how we alter our actions after we understand our mistakes.
With that thought in mind, picture this:
An old couple is walking together holding hands as if they were young sweethearts. (If you want what they have, then do what they do.) When the time comes, pick a partner who is your soul mate. Don’t settle for less.
Think of your relationship as being a living thing that requires nourishment and protection and healing time when it’s sick. Don’t ever take your the relationship for granted. Expect the following from your partner and give the same back.
1. Think we not me. Do and say things that make your partner feel important. Show appreciation.
2. Think about what’s right not who is right. All people argue. Make rules of conflict settlement. Forgive quickly and listen! Talk about anything and everything. Communication is the bridge to overcome problems and the key to a successful relationship. Speak plainly and don’t stonewall. (This is when a partner shuts the other one out by leaving or ignoring him or her. Stonewalling will always make the relationship worse because the partner being stonewalled will become less reasonable and more frustrated.)
3. For every criticism give five compliments. Compliments are powerful. Encourage your partner.
4. Always be loyal and put your partner first. Show respect for your partner and his or her needs. Give trust to your partner. Don’t keep secrets.
5. Be willing to compromise. Live in the present. Don’t focus on the past.
Sounds a bit like things we learned when we were young. The same holds true when we are old…ahem…older!
Don’t settle for less than you deserve. You have value and there will be someone out there, someday who will appreciate you and treasure you for who and what you are.
Photo: Old Love 3 from Morohtar
