Divorce: When the writing is in the wall
There comes a point in a marriage or relationship when you have to face the facts. This is an example of some of the emails I receive from women who are totally in denial regarding a potential divorce.
The Facts:
“He doesn’t speak to me at all unless I ask him a question. Then he answers by saying ‘yeah’ or ‘no.’ When I ask him about work, he doesn’t tell me anything. He comes home about 2 to 3 hours late at least four nights a week. When I ask him where he was, he’ll say something like, ‘Why all the questions? Where do you think I was? I was at work to earn money for you and the kids.’
The Questions:
The problem is that I call his work and even though he has a direct line, he doesn’t answer. When I call his cell phone, he never answers but he always answers it when he is at home and someone calls. When I ask him why he doesn’t answer either phone when he is supposedly at work, he screams at me and says, ‘I’m sick of all your questions. Stop nagging me. What is it? Do you want me to leave? Do you want a divorce?’
The Denial:
I know he loves me and the kids. I’m sure this is just a phase he is going through but it’s hard for me to understand. He is so crabby and angry when he is at home. I don’t want to chase him away by demanding answers when he isn’t doing anything wrong…really. I know there isn’t anyone else. I know we won’t get a divorce.”
The Time To Face Facts:
How can she deny the inevitable? We all did at one time or another and the longer we go without seeing the writing on the wall, the more pain we feel later as we live through a divorce.
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