If I can give you only one “word to the wise,” it is that your children are being hurt by your divorce. There are no exceptions and no “maybes.” They are being hurt and that fact is plain and simple.
I have said this before and I’m sure I’ll say it many more times, please don’t make the mistake of thinking that any of your children are unscathed during the process. Just because they don’t act out, just because you don’t see anger and you don’t witness disrespect doesn’t mean that they are not experiencing pain during the divorce.
Some kids experience pain in ways that are easy to see. Sometimes you can’t see anything. Kids are very resilient but they are not without feelings and they don’t miss much. Often children carry a self imposed burden that makes them believe that the divorce in some way is their fault.
Please be cautious as you walk down the dark and lonely street of divorce. Remember that your children want you to be happy, at times to their own detriment. It might be your divorce but they are your children. It’s still all about the children.
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