Is he cheating? Why? What should I do?

Is he cheating? Why is he cheating? What do I want to do about it? I am beginning to get jaded because of all of the moms who are asking questions or telling about their experiences with cheating spouses. I have come to the conclusion that the above questions must be asked and each mom must answer each question honestly.

There are some obvious signs and some that are not so obvious signs that he is cheating.

• Has he taken off his wedding ring?
• Has he cut back on his requests for sexual pleasure with you?
• Has he begun to verbally diagnose your physical frailties?
• Has he had unexplained phone numbers on phone bills?
• Has he had unexplained times away from home and or business trips?
• Have there been unexplained hotel rooms for two?
• Has he begun to notice his appearance and or change the way he dresses?
• Have there been hang ups when you answer the home phone?
• Has he told you that problems between the two of you are your fault?
• Is he unwilling to discuss your problems?
• Is he accusing you of cheating when you are not?

There are many reasons why a spouse cheats but many believe that there are a few commonalities

• Some people just cheat, for no apparent reason.
• Some men cheat because the other woman makes them feel better in some way, than their spouse does.
• Some cheat because, even with an active sex life, they are not, in their opinion, getting enough or good enough sex.
• Some mates cheat because their spouses stop caring for their physical appearances.
• Some husbands cheat because they feel the need for more attention than their spouse is able to give, for what ever reason.
• Some spouses cheat because of the difference their libidos versus the libidos of their mates.

So what should you do about it?

• Live with it for the sake of the children, even though it is killing me.
• Live with it because I don’t care.
• Live with it until the children are grown.
• Can’t live with it and attempt counseling in order to try to save the marriage.
• Can’t live with it and file for divorce.
• Try to get back by cheating also.
• Wait and hope for the best or until my spouse files for divorce.

Only you will know what you you can handle and what you should do.

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