I often receive emails from women who are in relationships but not married. I’m not sure exactly how or why many new readers end up here if they aren’t involved in or thinking about a divorce. I do know that some of them ended up coming back because they were here when they were in the throes of divorcing their first husbands.
They want some guidance so that they don’t waste time with a new relationship if it isn’t going to turn into a relationship that ends in a good marriage. They don’t want another divorce.
As they describe their relationships and the new men, I often see red flags that they don’t see. The first thing I do is suggest to them that they imagine that they and their significant others are on a stage acting out what is actually happening in their lives and with their relationships.
I then ask that they try to imagine they are in the audience watching. I ask what they think about what is happening on the stage.
It is such an eye opener. Try it. You might surprise yourself as to what you discover about yourself, your mate and your relationship.
P.S. Obviously this also helpful to women who are thinking about divorce.
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