My mother used to tell me that the best gift that you can give your children is a good marriage. I didn’t really get it. I thought I was giving that gift to my kids because for a while, I really did think I had a good marriage. It never occurred to me that we would get divorced.
Why was I so wrong? Well, it was because I was in denial. I had four little children and was chaotically busy with their schedules, their birthdays, their school meetings, volunteering for their activities, car pooling and trying so hard to be the perfect married single parent because he was never home. He was never there for any of us.
But…I kept telling myself and my kids…he was a good provider, he worked hard and he didn’t play around and was also happily married and we were a good and happy family. Wrong. Divorce was on the horizon.
Here is the thing: Being busy and working hard at a job or as a mom doesn’t mean that you have a good marriage. You need to step back and look honestly at what your life and your family’s life really is.
Do yourself a favor and do your kids a favor. See reality.
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