Hello. My name is Claudia and I’m an expert. I am an expert in remembering the pain that I felt when I attempted to leave my children and remain a working mom. I’m an expert in feeling the loss of my personal identity, when I quit my job to become a stay at home mom. I am an expert in remembering what it was like to forfeit my livelihood to become a stay at home mom. I am an expert in remembering the promises that were made to me, when I agreed to become a stay at home mom and take care of my husband and children.
I am an expert in remembering the sacrifices that I made while taking care of my four children alone. I am an expert in remembering how I watched, as my husband climbed the corporate ladder while I was home, raising the children. I am an expert in being viewed as indolent because I didn’t have a job outside of the home. I am an expert knowing the feeling of being sleep deprived as a young mother and more recently, as a mother of teens. I am an expert in raising preteens and teenagers who didn’t respect me because I didn’t have a job outside of the home. I am an expert in attempting but failing, to keep my family together in spite of my husband’s absence.
I am an expert in feeling the pain as I watched my children being drawn into the middle of the discord of divorce. I am an expert in dealing with unscrupulous attorneys. I am an expert in trying to abide by the rules and watching, while other people didn’t care about the rules. I am an expert in becoming aware of the fact, that being honest doesn’t mean that people won’t question your word. I am an expert in seeing that the person who has the most money, wins in court. I am an expert in feeling the pain of having lost my husband and children after giving up my life for all of them. I am an expert in being fearful about my future.
Now, all of you who identify with what I have just said, I have a suggestion for you. Change your way of thinking. Remember the 10 suggestions that I mentioned earlier? Go back and read number one. Number one is probably the most important rule. Think positively, believe in yourself and your abilities and work toward that end. Do what needs to be done and have faith. When I began to focus on the positive instead of the negative about my situation, things began to change.
I must admit,that I am strong and hard working. I’m sure you are too. You must be, after all, you are a stay at home mom! I am also lucky in that I am confident and positive in my thinking. If you are confident and positive in your thinking, you’re ahead of the game. If you are not positive and confident, start to become positive and confident. Believe that you can and you will. I have evolved to the point that I no longer shoulder the blame for things that were out of my control. You can evolve too.
I know that I have made mistakes, BUT I am confident in the fact that I acted in the best way that I could have, with the information that I had at the time. I feel really good about the person that I have become. It is a wonderful feeling to be excited about what the future holds instead of anxious! I know that all of you, who have been or are facing situations like I described, will also be more than fine, if you just believe and do what needs to be done! It’s time to have faith and evolve.
