The holidays are about half over for most of us. The other night, a new friend asked me the question that I have heard so many times before and it still haunts me. She asked, “If you could have done anything differently, what would you have done?”
I told her that if I had to give only one answer it would be that I would not have ignored the signs. When we argued and he would threaten divorce. I would have realized that he meant it. I would not have answered by saying, “You are in it for life so please let’s try to listen to each others’ point of view.”
The reality is that if one spouse thinks he or she is in it for life doesn’t mean that the other spouse feels the same way. It’s the same way with the vows you made to each other. Just because one of you lived by those vows, doesn’t mean that the other one did.
Please, do yourself a favor and don’t ignore the signs. Be aware and be prepared for what might happen in the future.
I know this is difficult, especially at this time of year but please give yourself the gift of facing reality.
