In an effort to help you to be prepared for what is to come when divorce comes into play, I want to give you a heads up. You need to become even more sensitive to what your children are feeling. You need to watch their actions, what they are saying and what they are not saying.
Some children will begin to act out at school or at home. Please, if you see anything that might indicate that your child or children might be depressed, seek counseling. Schools have great support systems and offer help for children experiencing depression and divorce. Connect with their schools and guidance counselors so that your children won’t slip through the cracks as the divorce process shatters their lives.
It is so painful to need to seek help from the schools because you feel like you have failed your child or children. Here is the thing: Suck it up! Put your ego in your pocket for the sake of your child or children. If they need help, get it for them.
You need to put their needs first because the pain they are experiencing is beyond your understanding. You have no idea what is going on in their minds. You have no idea that they might be blaming themselves for your broken marriage and broken family.
They will not necessarily show any signs of depression but that doesn’t mean they aren’t suffering. If you love them, own up to your divorce and your mistakes and connect with the professionals at their schools and get help.
