Division of Assets

For the purpose of this post, I am writing about the assets that have been in the marital home. Dividing property during the divorce process can be extremely challenging and heart wrenching.

It’s so important that the soon to be ex spouses act in mature and respectful ways even when the divorce is contentious. The marriage is over and it is prudent for both spouses to act with decorum.

This may sound like common sense but for some reason, there are spouses who feel the need to inflict pain on the other spouse even at the very end of the marriage. There is absolutely nothing gained by doing this.

Whatever material assets are taken out of the marital home is difficult for both spouses to witness. There are some do’s and don’ts that will help to make that difficult day go as easy as possible.

Do’s and don’ts for moving day

• If either of you have new significant others, don’t bring them. The breakup of a marriage and family is difficult enough without rubbing salt in the wounds.
• Don’t involve your children in anyway. In fact, don’t allow them to be present when items are removed.
• Do be courteous to your soon to be ex even if it is difficult.
• Don’t get lose perspective when items are removed. If there is something that has been awarded to your ex or visa versa, instead of creating a scene, offer to trade something that he might want more.
• If there has been any kind of abuse involved, make sure you have one or two “friends” there to support you and keep track of what went where.
• There is no need to pay your attorney to be there but it is a good idea to ask him or her if you can call if there is a problem of any kind.

Divorce is complicated enough in the best of cases. The longer a marriage was, the more difficult this division will be. The worst part is that ultimately, the children are hurt the most with any pettiness.

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