Your Marriage: The Time of Your Life or Time for A Change?

A friend  wrote a post on his marketing site and it hit home for me because of this site and what happens to so many women who are in unhappy marriages. It’s easier to just stay and keep on keeping on. Today is just like all other days, right? Not necessarily!

I’d like to share with you a few of  the words that Jim Connolly wrote on his blog regarding his marketing clients.

“Of course, for the vast majority of people, today is just another day.  They want things to be better, but they haven’t reached the breakthrough point yet.  The breakthrough point is what happens when you suddenly realize that the clock is ticking – That things are not going to “just improve.”

Others reach their breakthrough point, after some kind of major incident in their life, like a landmark birthday, the arrival of a child or a health scare.  These can all snap you out of the “just another day” mindset.

…I regularly get to speak with people, on the day they decide to get serious about their results.  Today, I will receive email from people who have decided to stop settling for less than they deserve.  Today is their day!  People often tell me that they have read this blog for months, sometimes years, before they decided to get in touch with me.  Then their breakthrough happens and we speak.  It’s liberating.  It brings them clarity and confidence.  It’s extremely exciting.

If you think you deserve more, in any area of your life, then make today your day!”

While Jim’s words have absolutely nothing to do with women and divorce, they are so all encompassing that they pertain all people.  Too often  women believe that their lots in life will always be what they are now. 

When a woman thinks about the possibility of divorce, she thinks about the “what ifs?” She questions herself about how she will survive financially, will she be blamed, does a divorce mean she failed, what will happen to her children?

As Jim spoke about a break through point, I see that as happening to women when they find out their husbands cheated or that they filed for divorce. Women often need that ah ha moment because they fear the unknown. The devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know right? Not necessarily.

When you think about where you are now, where you should be or where you could be, think about the word time and some of its uses.

• time flies
• turn back the hands of time
• the sands of time
• a waste of time
• time will tell
• time for a change
• time heals all wounds
• the time of your life
• no time like the present
• no time to lose

Today really is the first day of the rest of your life. Make a decision. If you decide to stay, then do something to make your marriage better. Now! If  you decide that divorce is the answer, then do something to make your life better. Now!

“There is no time like the present. That’s why it is a gift.”  ~Unknown

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