Divorce and Stay at Home Moms

You may or may not know that this site began originally as Divorce for Stay At Home Moms. That seems like a lifetime ago. The scary part is that stay at home moms still are facing the same issues with divorce that they were back then.

If my wish could come true it would be that before a woman becomes a stay at home mom, she would have a post-nuptial agreement in place. Women who opt to stay home with their kids are so naive and optimistic about the fact that their marriages will last forever. Trust me! I know that from experience!

As much as I am rewarded by the work I do as a divorce coach, I remain concerned that stay at home moms are the ones who lose the most in the case of divorce. When their husbands and they make the decision for them to stay at home, absolutely no precautions are taken to protect the mom.

If you know any women who are pregnant and considering becoming stay at home moms, please talk to them. The easiest way to bring up the subject is along the lines of insurance if the “bread winner” were to become ill and be unable to work or even worse if he were to die. Then, when you are in middle of discussing that, you can bring up something like, “It’s the same or worse if you become a stay at home mom and get divorced.”

Guaranteed her answer will be something like, “Oh, that will never happen to us, we have a good marriage.” One suggestion is to then ask her how she would take care of her baby without any income. Women put their kids’ needs before their own so that might help the message get through!

You are on your own from there. Please just do whatever you can do to keep her reminded because you might save her from a future of financial ruin.

As a divorce coach, it feels wonderful to know that I have helped so many women by helping them understand the divorce process. It’s in knowing that my coaching clients will make more informed choices that give them a better chance to come out ahead after divorce. It may sound strange to you but I feel even better when I can help women prepare themselves prior to the beginning of the divorce process. You may be asking why?  I’ll use this analogy about my divorce help.

You tell me, which is better…to catch a glass that falls off the counter before it hits the floor or to try to pick up the broken pieces of the glass after it hits the floor?

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