“To Be or Not To Be?” “Fault” or “No-Fault?” Whose fault is it really?

What NOW-NYS uses as a basis for their stance is of no major consequence in the debate between fault and no-fault divorce. The significant issues should be the ones that deal ultimately with the responsibilities of both parties to each other and to their children. If the laws, judges, attorneys and spouses were perfect, the billable hours would be used to stratagize proving levels of accountability on the part of each spouse rather than fault.

What seems to happen too often is that the attorneys’ coffers are filling up with blood money gained from their prowess at relentless assaults on the opposing husband or wife. They inflict pain as they put on their performances for the judges and their clients. This is NOT criminal court. It is supposed to be family court. Emotions are already raging and yet SOME attorneys go on a tasteless and an unacceptable attack mode. Then they bask in the glory of their clients’ approval which reeks of anguish, retribution and the almighty dollar.

The scars inflicted during the divorce court experience are often malignant. They can and often do destroy the relationships in an entire family for years to come. It is not the fault or no-fault issue that is destructive. My belief is that more attorneys need to remember what enticed them into family law in the first place. I hope their motives weren’t what some of them embody now.