Those of you, who know me, know that I love country music. I just heard a song that Cal Smith sang and I will tell you, it hit home! Divorce shatters a family and all too often, one or both parents work at alienating the children from the other parent. One or both parents contrive “stories” that will make the children turn on the other parent. Children who are “used” as weapons to hurt the other parent are often hurt far more than the parent that is the target.
I have experienced the hurt of being the parent that was used as the target and I will tell you that the pain has been brutal. However, just like anything else in this life, there is usually a rainbow after the rain. I would like to share the lyrics of this song in hopes that those of you, who have felt the devastation of your children’s turning against you, might see a glimmer of hope. The song is titled, Birds and Children Fly Away.
“…Mama gently smiled and told me that, Mamas always know…the only way to come back is to go and birds and children fly away…like clouds on a windy day and there’s usually a rainbow after the rain. Birds and children fly away. That’s the Master’s plan, you know. Children are God’s gift to make love grow.’ I can still hear Papa say, “Don’t cry Mama, birds and children they just fly away.”
Does that hit a nerve? It sure hit mine but guess what? After living through six years of the divorce process, I am beginning to see the early beginnings of their returning. “Birds and children fly away.” More importantly, I have learned that, The only way that they can comeback is if they go. “The only way to come back is to go.” Thank you God for giving me the patience and strength to wait for them to come back after they flew away!
