Where ever you are in the divorce process, there are a few things about which you can be relatively certain. No pun intended.
The first is the relatives. It is usually not possible to keep your relationship with your ex’s family even if you were close during the marriage. This especially holds true with the grandparents. Even if they say that your relationship will never change…it will.
The reasons are pretty clear when you are on the outside looking in. One of the main reasons is money. They do not want you to have any of it even if they professed to love you after your marriage ends. It just won’t happen.
The other reason is the grandchildren and depending on the ages of the children, grandparents can wage battles that take casualties. You will be one of them if you aren’t wise in your actions. A word to the wise, work with them. If you try to alienate your children from them in any way it will hurt your children. As is the case with every part of divorce, you need to put the kid’s needs first and try to save them from pain.
Even if your ex’s family badmouths you to your kids, ultimately they will figure things out. Just be patient. They will come around eventually.
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