When a couple splits up and they have shared the friendship of couples and singles, what happens to them when divorce comes into the picture?
Sometimes with divorce, it’s like hitting the delete button on your computer. The sad part is that many of these relationships have been growing for decades. Blood is thicker than water when it comes to the ex-spouse’s family. You may have been close but about 99% of the time that will be forgotten and you will become the bad guy.
Regarding friends, a few things hold true. If you side with the wife of a cheating husband, you might be ostracized for it. Why? Loyalty doesn’t seem to hold a candle to what the cheating spouse has to offer.
Fair weather friends become an endangered species. Nothing you can do will change that. Often a divorced woman is seen as a threat to friends who still have happy marriages.
Don’t feel betrayed, as hard as it is. It’s more realistic to understand that for many, it’s not history that has value it’s the present and the future. Add to that, people don’t want to “catch” your divorce.
The good news is that there are many more friends out there. You just haven’t met them yet. A divorced woman isn’t a dead woman. She can be very much alive and happy as a clam…are clams happy? Well anyway, a divorced woman can be very happy and I’m proof of that!
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