There are so many women who know that their marriages are over but they don’t want to be the ones to file for divorce. They remain in a holding pattern, much like a plane that can’t land for some reason.
Some have said that they don’t want to be the one to file because they are afraid that their children will hate them if they do. Some are afraid of the repercussions with their husbands if they are the ones who file. Most of these women would rather suffer through the pain of bad marriages and they actually hope their husbands will be the ones to file.
Everyone is different and everyone has different reasons for her actions. I would never presume to tell anyone to file for divorce. That is a decision that is uniquely theirs and should remain so. I would only advocate divorce in the case of abuse.
The one piece of advice that I have offered consistently on this site for years is that women, especially stay at home moms must prepare for the possibility of divorce. One of the many ways that women can prepare is by furthering their educations. Better education and better skills can only help the process of finding a job or a more lucrative job.
Interestingly enough, attempting to go back to school seems to be the one “preparation” that women who don’t want to take any other steps toward divorce, will attempt.
Why are women willing to further their educations?
- Maybe it is because it means they can spend acceptable time away from their spouses.
- Maybe it is because they hope to be able to work from home.
- Maybe it’s because their spouses will contribute to the cost as long as they are still married.
The reason doesn’t really matter. What does matter is that many women are finally willing to take charge of their futures by doing what needs to be done in order to earn an income that will help them thrive after divorce.
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