Hi Everyone. Sorry I have been missing for the last view days. Meeting deadlines really takes up time! LOL! I have to share something a bit strange, at least I think so. In the last few weeks, 3 old friends called me out of the blue. It’s really strange because I loved all three of them but somehow lost touch with them because of busy family schedules and moves to different states. (FYI FaceBook brought us together!)
Well, guess what? Right from the beginning of each call, we picked up right where we left off! It was as though the last twenty years had only been twenty minutes. The interesting part is that each of them, in different ways mentioned the fact that they had seen that my ex-spouse and I did not make a good pair. Obviously, because they were and are MY friends, they told me that they didn’t understand why I married him in the first place because we were so different.
They said that they saw me as happy and energetic and they saw him as moody and negative. How odd it is to learn so many gazillion years later that other people saw what I didn’t? Food for thought: What if I had heard their opinions a lifetime ago? Would it have made a difference? What if I had heard them say that they had met one of my ex-spouse’s lady friends while he was supposed to be on a business trip and never told me?
I think my answer is that, if I had heard those things way back when, these people wouldn’t still be my friends. How scary is that? My guess is that most women who believe in their husbands and their marriages would feel the same way. So what should a friend do? Should she tell her friend her opinion about the husband? Should she mention the fact that she had proof of his cheating? I don’t have the answer. Do you?
