Has Your Marriage Become A Battle Royal?

As most of you know, I do not advocate divorce except in the case of abuse. Marriages should be give and take and should have more hours filled with harmony than they have discord.

Often, what I see on this site is that women hang on for years, hoping that things might change and their marriages might improve. Hoping will not make it so. Action on the part of both spouses might.

If you are one of the women who has been hanging on to your marriage by a thread, it might be time for a reality check.

There are a few questions you should ask yourself.

• Does everything your spouse does irritate you?
• Can he do anything right?
• Are you just sick and tired of trying to get your marriage on better footing?
• Is it difficult to be in the same room with him?
• Does the idea of lovemaking make you sick?
• Do the things that you used to find endearing about your spouse now repulse you?

It should go without saying that the above questions apply to your husband too. While you can’t read his mind, you should be able to read his actions. If he acts toward you in manners that equates to the message, “Our marriage is not working,” it’s also time for a reality check.

If you are filled with resentment toward your husband and you have been to “good” marriage counseling and things have gotten even worse, moving on might be the healthiest thing to do.

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