I Get Divorce and I Get Life After Divorce!

One of my kid’s friends asked me at dinner the other night, “So you are a woman’s divorce advocate, right?” I told him, “Well, not exactly. I don’t encourage nor do I promote divorce for women or anyone else for that matter.” He asked, “So then what is that you do with women who have gotten divorced?”

As he questioned me, I thought, “Hmmm, maybe it’s time that I explain exactly what it is that I do so that my new readers and my kid’s friends 😉 will understand.

So here goes…

Years ago, I began a very early version of this site in an attempt to spare women from the kind of financial and emotional devastation that I experienced during my own divorce. At the time, I found that my own pain was lessened with each woman that I was able to help. Little by little this site evolved into what it is today.

The hundreds of women who have shared their stories and sought my help over the last decade have provided me with the experience and knowledge that I have today. It is that expertise that affords me the ability to answer divorce questions and give women support through the uncertainties and fear that come hand in hand with the divorce process.

Each woman is unique and each divorce is unique. The one thing that seems to be consistent in each case is the fact that women are vulnerable. Whether they initiate divorce, are served with divorce papers, are thinking about divorce or are trying to pick up the pieces after divorce, I am here to help.

I help women protect themselves so that they can have futures that are financially secure. I help them to understand when their concerns are valid and when they are not. I give them the support that they need to regain and maintain their self confidence and self worth.

I answer their questions and give my professional opinion on the issues that they are facing.

Probably the most common questions pertain to the following areas:

• Ways a woman can protect herself financially prior to divorce
• The process of selecting the right attorney
• The obligations of attorneys to clients
• Areas of concern with legal bills
• Ways to save money during the divorce process
• Maintaining perspective and avoiding emotional and costly mistakes
• Preparation for the unexpected

Ideally, the first call is a fact finding call. Many times, that first call is very emotional and that is to be expected. After I hear what a particular woman is experiencing, I make a suggestion. I will either say that I don’t think that she needs to purchase a package or I will suggest the most economical package to suit her needs. Many times, women who connect with me for that first call do not really need my services for more than one call. When that is the case, I tell them so.

I do what I do because I am passionate about helping women to survive the divorce process and to thrive after it is over. I am not a psychologist or an attorney. I am an expert on the process of divorce and my goal is to save my clients from spending unnecessary money. I offer a sincere and knowledgeable support system for as long as they request.

Often during that first call, I hear comments like, “I’m ashamed to tell you this but…” The part that my new clients learn very quickly is that I have heard it all and nothing is surprising to me. My job is not to judge or criticize. My job is to support and offer my educated suggestions. My clients know that they can email me as much as they need to and that I will get back to them as quickly as I can. We can schedule our calls via the phone or Skype. My preference is to avoid the video.  😉

I get divorce. I get women. I get fear and pain and feeling like a failure. I get what it feels like to feel broken. The great part is that I also get what it feels like to have a rewarding and happy life when it is all over! I get what you are experiencing. Please don’t hesitate to contact me if you think you might benefit from my help.

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