Obviously since you are on this site, you or someone you care about is someplace in the divorce process. This is the time of year that plays havoc on the women and children who are living through divorce. You may have initiated the divorce or you may have had the divorce papers served on you. What ever or how ever divorce found it’s way into your life, you probably feel angry, hurt, bitter, sad and afraid.
Ladies, none of the reasons above is an excuse for being vindictive or unkind to the ex or soon to be ex-spouse. He may have cheated, lied and been cruel to you BUT again, these reasons are not excuses for retaliation.
Why? Well, here are the reasons and please take note of #1 because #1 is the most important one.
#1. The children…your children! Whatever you do to your spouse or to your potentially ex-spouse will take a direct hit on the children…your children! Please don’t think or assume that telling your side of the story will impact their view on who is right and who is wrong! The only thing that will happen when you badmouth the ex is that your children will be hurt! Please remember that your children love both of you and they don’t want to have to pick sides!
#2 Believe it or not…what goes around comes around. Ultimately, the reality is that when you sink to his level…you are at his level! Water seeks his own level and even though it is difficult…rise above the garbage! Trust me, if you are patient, they will figure it out! Please, especially now…during this wonderful holiday season…be nice to everyone including your ex. Think about offering an olive branch for the sake of your children. Trust me on this one. Ultimately, it will make you happier.
