We are approaching 2011 and the first month of any year is the time when more divorces are filed than any other time of year. It might be because holidays are over or it might be because people want new beginnings when New Year’s Day arrives.
Some people might be avoiding a break up during the holiday season in order to avoid a disruption of their family during that time.
Anyone who has experienced divorce knows that there is no good time to begin the process. If you have given your marriage your best shot, if you have been patient, forgiving, apologetic and have obtained counseling and nothing is working, divorce might be the only option.
Some believe that divorce is easier to endure when families have adult children. I believe that to be true because younger children are more dependent on their parents for their strength, support, advice and the like. Younger children actually experience a shattering of their worlds because of the breakup of their families. This does not mean that older children or adult children don’t suffer.
I have said this so often, whatever you do during you divorce process, please take care of one thing…your children. Both of you need to share the news in a diplomatic and non confrontational way. You need to break the news in a gentle way.
Both of you need to attempt to keep things as normal as possible and above all, let your children know that the divorce is not their fault and that both of you will always love them.
