If you have been the victim of domestic violence in the past, you know that the holidays often make the situation worse. Abusers often use the holidays to inflict more pain on their victims. They tighten their control “grip.” Emotions run close to the surface during the holiday season. In addition, often there is an […]

If you take only two things from this site, they should be that your kids need to be protected through the divorce process and avoid divorce court if it is at all possible. The reality is that divorce can be simple in most states IF you have no children and no assets. In every other […]

Many of you are considering filing for divorce after the holidays. There is one thing that I can’t emphasize enough to you and that is to be extremely cautious when you select your divorce attorney. I want to give you an example of how easy it is for vulnerable women  to get caught up in […]

Quite a few emails arrived after my post on December 12, 2010. In essence they were filled with disdain over my suggesting that women act with courtesy with their ex husbands for the benefit of their children. The comments were along the lines of, “I hate him. I can’t get past that and a do […]

Dear God, Christmas is coming and I sure hope you’re listening because I need to ask you something very important. My mom took my sister and me to see Santa today. I’m not sure if he was the real Santa or just a Santa’s helper but he was very nice. My little sister sat on […]

Moms, just a little FYI: Children can be pretty clever about how they work their divorcing parents during the holidays. They understand very well that you might not have sufficient contact with their father so you might not be aware of some of their requests or how they are presenting them to you and your […]

Do you remember how you felt when you found out you were going to have a baby? Do you remember your feelings as you felt that baby moving inside of you? If you adopted, do you remember how you felt when you found out that you had been approved? Do you remember how you felt […]