There is such a fine line when the divorce process begins as to when and how you should tip your hand.
On one hand, you need to take precautions to protect yourself financially. Taking precautions to protect yourself financially, can trip an alarm for your husband. When that alarm goes off, he will understand that you are preparing for divorce. When that happens, in many cases, the war begins.
Should you tip your hand? Like with anything, you need to weigh the pros and cons of every action. Every divorce scenario is different and therefore every strategy is unique.
Think of this scenario: Your marriage is on rocky ground. Both you and your husband are well aware of this and you are sure that divorce is on the horizon.
The question that you must think about is, “What will be the result of tipping my hand?”
Three scenarios for tipping or not tipping your hand
Scenario One:
- You withdraw money from a joint account.
- You protect yourself financially in the case of divorce.
- You tip your hand.
Scenario Two:
- You don’t withdraw the money.
- You don’t protect yourself financially in case of divorce.
- You don’t tip your hand.
Scenario three:
- He takes money out of the joint account.
- You are strapped financially.
- He tips his hand.
Which scenario makes you more comfortable and less afraid? Look at all three and weigh each scenario.
Ultimately, any moneys taken by either party during this time should be required to be paid back when settlement and division of assets takes place.
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