Quite a few emails arrived after my post on December 12, 2010. In essence they were filled with disdain over my suggesting that women act with courtesy with their ex husbands for the benefit of their children.
The comments were along the lines of, “I hate him. I can’t get past that and a do not want to be in the same room with him or have any conversations with him.”
I guess the opinions of these women were that their feelings of hatred for the ex are more powerful than the feelings of love for their children.
I suggested that they get control of the emotions that contribute to continuing a volatile relationship with their ex husbands after divorce.
Many people believe that the opposite of love is hate. I beg to differ. As a child, my mother taught me that, “The opposite of love is apathy or indifference.”
Women who feel indifference for their ex husbands are the ones who don’t care enough about them to care. Please think about it.
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