Father's Day Cake
Many women have contacted me regarding the happenings that took place in Father’s Day.
During the divorce process and after divorce, the parent who has nurtured and been there for their children from day one is often the parent who is hurt the most.
What I see over and over again is that there are always two kinds of people going through divorce.
There is the “deserter” and there is the “desertee.”
The “desertee” always seems to be in the most pain. For whatever reason, the “deserter” seems to be the party in the divorce who is on a crusade to destroy the “desertee” to prove that he or she was in the right for putting an end to the marriage.
So many of you don’t understand how your children can want to be with the “deserter” on Father’s Day. I have said this before and I will say it again. The children do not want to pick sides. They love you both and after all, he is their father. As cruel as this may sound, unless he is abusive to them, you need to suck it up.
If you can afford it and in today’s day I know that many of you can’t, I suggest seeking a good therapist. You may be able to find someone in your church, synagogue or women’s group who can help you deal with some of these issues free of charge.
It’s really important to have someone who can fill you in on why some of the things happen during a divorce. it’s also very important to have a support system.
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