I just received this note and I can’t tell you how happy it made me. I couldn’t have received a better gift than this to begin the new year.
This is from a military wife who hit rock bottom about nine months ago. Look at her now! I am sure she will be an inspiration to you. She sure has inspired me.
January 5, 2011
Claudia,
I hope your holidays were wonderful for you and your family. I’m writing to tell you Thank you for being there for me during a rough time and when I was feeling so alone in the world. I was embarrassed and alone and you made me feel that I had power in myself and no one else did so that alone was what I needed.
I am also writing to inform you that things are doing better for me and for my husband and most of all my children. My husband is in counseling and is taking his medicine and his parents came up to have a sit down and help talk things out and support me basically on trying to change things for the family.
He is loving the way he feels on his medicine and his life. He even got tons of compliments on his happiness and new personality when we went home for a visit with family over Christmas. It’s nice to see him come home from work and not be so angry at me and the kids anymore. He plays with them again and we have even been working on trusting me with my own decisions and letting go of the control the military has taught him to teach other soldiers.
What I enjoy and compliment him the most on is his willingness to want to change for us and for our family. Even if he takes a step back the fact that he has finally acknowledged there was a problem and takes ownership on the way he has been treating me as wrong is enough to stand by his side to hopefully see the light.
I have set up boundaries for me so he knows what expectations and lines I have until I can’t take anymore. So far things are good but I have still been trying to take steps in the marriage to maintain some more personal independence such as a little bank account in only my name etc. I think as a woman I have become wiser and stable in my own life instead of depending on someone else to choose my lot in life.
I will no longer surrender to a marriage of hate but insist that we deserve more and if he chooses not to be part of that then it’s his choice not mine that makes us leave. I will not feel guilty for his actions as a man. Someday in the future I hope to see some light but I keep reminding myself that maybe the divorce papers where what he needed to see life for what it was and to see he was no longer in control of me or life. Time will tell.
Again Thanks over and over again!
Please excuse the tear stains. Her note says what this site is all about…empowering women to take control of their lives!
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