When Divorce Is Over – Let It Be Over!

So you and your husband are on the path to divorce. One or both of you have made the decision to end your marriage. You might be anyplace on the divorce timeline and you might actually have the divorce behind you.

Your marriage has ended but your family hasn’t ended if you have kids. At what point are you and or your ex going to let go of the drama? Your children have two parents and they love both of you. Divorce is painful for all involved and it can hurt children irreparably. Don’t make it worse for them.

Depending on the ages of the children, you need to reconcile yourself to the fact that you and your ex will cross paths. Please, for the sake of your children, do it graciously. How difficult is it to be civil or even courteous when you both encounter each other?

The length of time that the divorce process drags on and the ages of the children will be indicative of the intensity of everyone’s exhaustion with your divorce and its aftermath.

At some point, you must show your kids that you can move on with your lives. Family occasions like graduations, confirmations, weddings and the like are stressful enough without you two adding to the mayhem.

The last thing your kids want is to have to worry that Mom and or Dad are going to act juvenile and be rude. When your divorce is over, let it be over. If not for yourself, do it for your kids. Obviously, most ex spouses aren’t thrilled to be together but who cares? Suck it up and give it your best shot if you love your kids and want to be part of their lives.

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