Many women tell me that they are getting married before they have really had the time to adjust to being divorced.
Often they had thought of themselves as Bob’s wife or Janie’s mother during their marriage. This holds true especially with stay at home moms. (Moms who work outside of the home are more likely to have held onto some semblance of their own identities.)
The other end of the spectrum is where women testify that they will never get married again.
The important part about both of these scenarios is that women need time to rediscover themselves after divorce. The length of their marriages often dictates the time required for a woman to resurface as the person she really is.
Jumping from a failed marriage into another marriage too quickly can be the very foundation on which another failed marriage is based.
Please. Do yourself a favor. Don’t rush into another marriage and don’t assume that all men are as “bad” as your ex. As is usually the case, meeting some place in the middle is probably the best choice.
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