As difficult as it is to do, try to do the best you can to be optimistic about your future. Incorporate positive thoughts into everything you say and do. A positive attitude will make all of the difference, guaranteed!
10 Steps:
1. Believe in yourself, your abilities, and your strength! You will be OK. Just believe and do what needs to be done.
2. Save everything and don’t assume anything about anybody.
3. Remove or photocopy all important papers. Note, with proof, all marital debt and assets at the time of separation. Remember credit cards, frequent flier miles, bonus points, stocks, IRA’s, mortgages, etc.
4. Change the PIN on everything that you can. Remember that he knows all of your personal information including your SS number, mother’s maiden name, kid’s birthdays and your anniversary. Well, maybe not kid’s birthdays or your anniversary. 😉
5. Remove your spouse as your power of attorney and health care surrogate.
6. Take pictures or videos of all assets and document when and how each was obtained, and the value of each.
7. Prepare an expense statement for yourself and each child. Include proof for everything.
8. If there has been abuse, get a Protection from Abuse Order so that he can not come into the marital residence.
9. Research divorce laws in your state and whatever specific laws that may pertain to your situation, such as military laws. Interview attorneys. Take notes during the interviews. Be aware of attorneys who try to “sell” themselves to you. Don’t be gullible or intimidated.
10. Prepare a resume and research your local job market.
Photo by Anne (2010)
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