Love Is A Kin To Hate

As I continue to work on my book, Divorce Your Divorce and Move on with Your Life, I am reminded of so many issues that divorced women face. (On that note, if there is anything in particular that you would like addressed, please email me at Claudia at ClaudiaBroome dot com or leave me a message here. I am pretty sure that I have covered everything but you never know. I welcome your input.)

One of the most important parts of divorcing your divorce is letting go of your marriage and your ex-spouse. Some of you might be thinking, “I am divorced so of course I have let go of my ex-spouse and my marriage.” To those of you who are saying or thinking that I say, do some real soul searching! Yes, hard core, gut wrenching soul searching! Dig deep and allow yourself to remember the love you had when you got married and then remember the pain you felt when you knew your marriage was over. All of the lip service in the world won’t help you to get past your divorce and move on. Saying that you don’t care anymore without coming to terms with your feelings is probably the biggest roadblock you face.

The best example that comes to mind is sweeping things under the carpet. Sure. It might take less effort the first time but when the second and third time comes into play, there are lumps under the carpet. A lumpy carpet can cause someone who walks on it to trip and fall. The same holds true when divorce comes into play. Anyone who can’t face her emotions and deal with them will not have a snowball’s chance in Hell of moving on.

Remember that a divorce is like a death and as such must be dealt with in the same fashion.  I have written many posts on this subject so I won’t repeat myself.

Anyway, back to the subject at hand, you must figure out whether or not you are really past your divorce and your ex-husband. There is only one sure fire way to know. Do you feel any emotion when you see him or talk to him or even talk about him? Remember: Love is akin to hate! When love is not present, hatred is not present. In fact, it’s fairly safe to say that emotion is not present.

To be continued.

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