Revealed: How To Avoid Pain

You are someplace in the divorce process and you are sure that you are the victim.

Maybe your husband played around. Maybe your husband abused you in some way. Maybe your husband left you financially stranded. All these things are painful, frightening and and erode your self-worth.

You are secure in the knowledge that you are right and you have been wronged by your husband.

The one thing that you need to understand is that there is no value in  being right and there is no value in being wrong when it comes to divorce and the after shock for your children.

The more divorcing couples try to “get back” at their spouses, the more the children are hurt. Even if the spouses don’t intentionally include their children in the war, the children become casualties.

So, as painful as the process is and even though you have been wronged, for the sake of your children, move on as quickly as possible!

Good old Voltaire put adversity this way, “Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to pass quickly through them.  The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us.”

So ladies, put some thick pants on you and your kids and begin make the move through and past the thorns of divorce…as quickly as possible. It will cause less pain for all of you!

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