Divorce: Maintaining High Net Worth

When connecting with an old friend the other night, we began reminiscing about the old days. Interestingly, she remembered things that I had long since forgotten.

We conversed about the old remember whens…

• When my ex-husband asked me to marry him and she and I had talked about whether or not I could ever give up my promising career to take care of my husband and children.
• The fact that a possible divorce never entered my mind.
• When I told my ex-husband that I would either marry him or become president and CEO of my company.
• When I balanced career and family and succeeded at both endeavors.
• When I decided after my second child was born that I wanted to give up my career to become a full time wife and mother.
• When I turned in my resignation and suffered through the pain of being identified as a wife and mother but not as my own person.
• When I volunteered, carpooled and entertained in an effort to support my husband and children.
• When I spent so much time alone and believed that our family was what a family should be.
• When I realized that my marriage was not a happy one and that being alone in a marriage was worse than living alone.
• When I began to question his fidelity.

The list went on and on and I remembered how my life had taken a turn that had ultimately put me in a place where I lost just about everything including my belief in myself and my abilities. I remembered when I realized that my self-esteem had been chiseled away piece by piece.

The best part of all of this nostalgia is that now I can take pride in how I overcame the odds and became successful in my own rite. Sure it’s difficult and there are hard times but originally I came from a place where I was confident in my abilities and boomeranged right back to that same place.

Actually, I came back to an even better place because when you overcome adversity, you can set your mind to rise to a level that many never think possible.

I did it and you can too…if you keep your wits about you. Divorce is often a fight to the finish but it’s worth the battle in the end. After all, you had so much. Why shouldn’t you continue to have so much just because you become divorced?