Please let me preface this blog by saying that I was exactly the SAHM that I describe here. This may upset some of you and for that I am sorry but I have a theory. I think that women, who become stay at home moms, share certain personality traits. As I see it, for the most part, these women are optimistic, naive, giving, unselfish, romantic, trusting, nurturing and extremely family oriented.
Because they possess these characteristics, they may well find themselves in extremely vulnerable positions, in the case of divorce. Because they are optimistic, they live their lives, believing that their marital problems can and will be, worked out. Any woman, who is willing and able to ignore the fact that she might find herself in the middle of a divorce, is a woman who gives new meaning to the words optimistic and naive. Knowing what we know about the divorce statistics, we need to realize that, these women may be compared to people who would be foolish enough, to jump out of a plane, hoping to survive, without a parachute.
Many marriages are volatile. They may even be likened to a hurricane. After the squall passes, if you are lucky, you will relax and enjoy the peacefulness of the calm after the storm. You may look around thankfully and see that everything is as it should be. If you are not so lucky, your heart breaks, as you evaluate the damage. You feel sick as you view the devastation, that the hurricane left behind. People, who live in areas exposed to possible hurricanes, usually prepare themselves for the possibilities.
They buy batteries for flashlights. They buy dry ice, in case of power losses. They make sure that they have canned goods. They tape their windows or board them shut. They may even put sandbags out, just in case. They realize that they must prepare in order to protect themselves, their families and their homes. Does it mean that these people hope to be in the path of a hurricane, just because they prepare themselves for the possibility? What a ludicrous thought! Who would want to live through the devastation of a hurricane or its’ aftermath?
Would anyone think that the people, who prepare themselves for the high winds and flooding, are luring the hurricane toward them? I think not. Is the preparation unnecessary because these people are creating a “tempest in a teapot” or are they “battening down the hatches,” as they hope and pray that they won’t have to evacuate? Look at the divorce statistics. Think about it. Answer these questions if you care about you and your children.
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