Are you married to a cheater? How can you know for sure? It’s kind of like asking yourself if your kids are using alcohol or drugs. You need to ask yourself a few questions and then pay attention to your answers. Remember that these are possibilities and not proof but you need to get prepared, just in case.
- Has your spouse changed in his need for privacy? If you used to have more of an awareness of his computer activity or his phone calls and that has changed, something could be up! Let’s use this as an example: You go to your shared computer and find that suddenly he has password locked his account. Red flag! The same holds true with cell phone and credit card accounts. Sudden secrecy may just mean sudden infidelity! If you question any of these things, you are accused of snooping. Red flag!
- Has your spouse changed his work schedule? Does he travel more or does he stay late at the office? Red flag!
- Does your spouse suddenly spend more time on the computer or on the phone? When you enter the room, does he suddenly hang up or sign off? Red flag! Does he keep his cell phone with him at all times? Red flag!
- Has your spouse become a bit unreliable? Is there money that hasn’t been accounted for? Have you seen receipts for items that aren’t for things he uses? Have you seen bills for hotels in one city when he was supposed to be on a business trip in another city? Red flag!
- Has your spouse ever said that he loves you but is no longer in love with you? Many cheaters use this as their script. If you hear these words. Red flag!!
- Has your spouse ever asked for space or time alone? Red flag!
- Do you find that you are making excuses for your spouse when you are suspicious of his actions or whereabouts? You need to go with your gut. If your intuition says he is cheating, look up at the flag pole because there is a red flag there!
Bottom line is that if you have an awful feeling in the pit of your stomach it may well be caused by a cheating husband and not the flu. Please remember that the punch line in marriage is not always what you expected or hoped for!
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