Who Are You?

Do you know who you are? I mean who you really are? Think about it. Sure, you might be a mom or a daughter or a sister or a friend but that those things don’t define who you are.

When you think about who you are, you need to think about only you. Forget thinking about you in terms of your family or friends or your school or your job.

It’s really difficult to go to the level of defining the real you…the down deep you. You didn’t learn this in school or at home except in a very few cases.

So let’s start from square one!

Q. Who are you?

A. I am a woman. More accurately, I am a sad woman.

Q. No, that is what you are. Try again. When you think about it, don’t think about you as the person who fulfills a role or someone’s expectation. So who are you?

A. I don’t know who I am any more.

That answer must tell you that this is why your days are long and you are always tired. This is why you are not excited about waking up each day. You are ignoring what you are and what you can do. If you are focused on what people think about you, chances are good that you don’t really know you.

I was where you are now. When I met people, I would say, “Hello, I’m Katie’s mom” or something similar.

Since my divorce, I have been able to shed the “bogus” me. I have been able to morph into the real me because I now value my abilities and my wisdom. I am happy with my life and happy with each and every day that I live.

That doesn’t mean that sadness, fear and pain don’t tiptoe in. It just means that I can keep perspective and evaluate what is happening around me and keep a distance if needed.

The world doesn’t revolve around me and that is okay. In fact, it is better than okay.

Please do yourself a favor. Put away the board game of your life. You don’t need to pass go or go to jail because of mistakes you might make.

All you need to do is exchange the board game you for the real you. The you that you are down deep!

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