Your Future Depends on Facing the Facts

MARRIAGE STONEMore and more, divorce is coming into play after a couple has been married for more than 20 years. That may seem odd unless it happens to you.

A “gazillion” years ago, a friend’s mother filed for divorce the day her younger sister graduated from high school. She was shocked because her parents had been married forever and she didn’t think that they had marriage problems. I remember a very tearful conversation when my friend shared the fact that she knew her mother didn’t respect her father because the only things he did were the grocery shopping and the cooking. On the other hand, her mother worked full time and “brought home the bacon.”

So here’s the point; when a marriage isn’t working for any reason, chances are pretty good that one or the other spouse will indeed file for divorce. So what does that really mean?

It means that marriages are not “written in stone.” It means that you can’t afford to ignore the facts. You may think that since your marriage has survived many years of ups and downs, it will continue to survive. The reality is maybe it will and maybe it won’t.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

  • Does he say or do anything that indicates that he is unhappy in the marriage?
  • Has he ever threatened divorce?
  • Would his finances be better if you were not in the picture?old lady
  • Has he ever cheated?
  • Does what he says differ from what he does when it comes to you?
  • Would his life be better if you were not in the picture?

It doesn’t matter if you are 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, younger or older, your marriage can end in divorce! Face the facts and deal with the truth because your future depends on it.

Think about it this way… You are the light at the end of your own tunnel.