4th Of July Fireworks
As is often the case on holidays, I receive many emails from women who are feeling sad and alone since their divorces. The 4th of July is no different.
You must remember that it’s not only okay to feel that way, you must feel that way in order to heal. The important part to understand is that divorce is like a death and death requires a certain grieving process in order to recover. Your emotions are extremely strong at this time and the good part is that the pain you experience is helping you to heal because you are coming to terms with your loss.
Every person grieves differently. There is no timetable. You may recover in a few weeks, months or even years.
There are seven stages of grief:
1. shock and denial
2. pain and guilt
3. anger and bargaining
4. depression and loneliness
5. adjusting to the loss
6. reconstruction of life without the loved one
7. acceptance and hope
It is so very important to be with family and friends for emotional support, especially on the milestones. You must face your emotions and realize that difficult milestones are holidays and anniversaries.
Bereavement should not be rushed but if time isn’t beginning to heal, you might want to seek the assistance of a professional.
Photo by Kathy ~
